Hello February!

Goodbye January, Hello February!

It doesn’t seem two minutes since we were bringing in the New Year, but yet Christmas seems like a distant memory!

Review of January…

I for one am glad that January has gone so quick, for me January consisted of not really making goals for the month, a hella lotta packing, on going harassment, removing my boy from school, getting hardly any content onto my blog, and not being Upto date with social media and others blog post!

The bonus about January is that I’m finally out of the hell hole the landlord and agents called a house… another downside to that is that I’m technically homeless with 5 kids… swings and roundabouts I guess haha.

The house I wanted and hoping to move into was due to be available the second week of January, except the previous tenants still to date, have moved out but haven’t handed the keys back in so unfortunately that is on hold until the keys are available so we are currently staying in the living room at my mother’s, sofa & floors for our beds and I’m pretty much just stressing about… what’s next!

I was supposed to be at the local housing office in town on Wednesday to see if they could help us out with some temporary housing until either that house I want is available or until we find something else more suitable.

I had the girls booked in at nursery for the full day so I could get there early, except they had different plans – SICKNESS – urgh! Which means, 48hrs off nursery, no travelling into town as I now have two poorly children so those plans got put on hold.

Luckily February isn’t looking so bad as I have some great plans for life, I will be homeschooling my boy until I can get him into a suitable school, if any of you reading this do homeschooling feel free to leave some advice in the comments for what to do with a 6yr old boy.

I’m hoping to get that 5 bed house I’ve been waiting on, if not I’m sure it won’t be long before I find something I like! I’m not picky, just dubious of landlords and agents due to the recent experience… over 2yrs in the house and to get any work done I had to report them to the council. I went from the October moving in until March the following year without any heating, that was horribly cold over that winter, especially for the kids!

I reported them to the council when the front door broke (the back door never worked anyway) and we had to use the “French Doors” to get out of the house, except the back garden wasn’t worthy of any awards with its cracked and broken slabs, a falling down fence and a slanted gate that never closed correctly (i was told the garden would be done before moving in) and unable to get the pram in and out without a fight and my eldest daughter flying over said slabs and grazing her legs and arms.

I could go on for hours about the nightmares of that house but I’ll crack on…

February

My blog is going to get alot more content onto it, including some of the nominations I’ve had from fellow bloggers – Thank you to each, i am very much grateful for those and look forward to getting these written, I am also looking forward to getting into it all properly and I want to get my blog self-hosted towards the end of the month or at the latest mid March.

Due to January being the hectic month I’ve slacked off on pretty much all my social media and the last two weeks I’ve missed alot of everyone else’s blog posts so I’ve been spending the past couple of “sick days” catching up.

Health & Wellbeing…

My podgy belly is still here so my exercise regime and yoga need to begin as soon as possible along with some healthier eating habits too!

My health has suffered alot since having my 5th child in June last year so it will be a good goal to me back to normal… whatever normal is!

Reading Challenge…

I’m still in the process of my reading challenge and quite surprised that I’m halfway into my second book considering the crazy January but I’m also proud to have got through them so quick and really enjoyed the time I’ve spent reading.

January Blog Goals update

I have hit some of my January goals, managed a following on my blog of 124, Twitter I exceeded my goal of 500 following with a fab 647, Instagram and Facebook I’d set goal of 100 followers and I hit those too!

I’m really happy with the support I’ve had over the past couple of months within the blogging community and especially with those that take the time to read my content – limited as it is at the moment – I would not still be hitting my goals without any of you and I believe if the support wasn’t here now while it’s all up in the air that I would have probably have given up on this little journey I’ve set out on!

THANK YOU ā™”

Much Love

Laura xx

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I Got Nominated For The Versatile Blogger Award

The Versatile Blogger Award

Wow, I’m Shocked and Excited all at the same time!

Shocked because I have been blogging for only a short amount of time, and excited because, well who doesn’t get excited about an award when they’ve started something new!

I’ll go back to me starting, I’ve actually wanted to start a Blog for years, but as always life takes over, things get in the way and you forget for a while. In my case , five kids in 8 years and up until 2 years ago I had an extra 4 children living with me too, I’m like the child collector only not the creepy kind like the dude from Chitty, Chitty, Bang, Bang!

I would like to ThankĀ Melanie who blogs over atĀ Frasers Fun House, who nominated me for The Versatile Blogger Award on 9th January 2018, She has a lovely parenting blog with children’s book reviews, fabulous days out and great gift ideas! I am so grateful to be nominated after only 2-3 weeks into my blogging life. Go check her out!

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So, what is the Versatile Blogger Award?

Blogger awards are a fun way for bloggers to show appreciation for other bloggers and their content. Blogging is harder work than it may look like from the outside, so it means the world when we are shown in any way that we are appreciated!Ā The Versatile Blogger Award celebrates high quality, unique, and loving content.Ā When nominated, the blogger can choose to accept the nomination and pass it on to 15 bloggers that they believe deserve a nomination as well.

The rules to accept this award are simple:

1. Thank the person who nominated you, and link their blog. There are millions of blogs out there, and somebody chose yours!

2. NominateĀ 15 bloggersĀ to keep spreading the appreciation.

3. ShareĀ 7 factsĀ about yourself.

So here goes: 7 facts about me, Laura from Directly Laura

1.I’m currently in house number 11 in 10 years, and due to move again very soon! And no I don’t have an obsession with collecting houses to go with the collection of children. haha! Just the joy’s of renting and not finding a decent enough house/landlord!

2. I’m a procrastinator and very good at putting off the things that NEED to be done!

3. My Favorite food is Chicken & Pasta – adventurous I know!

4. I’m more of an explorer than a beach bandit on holiday’s, I prefer walking around seeing sights than sitting on a beach in the heat. My Pale skin will vouch for me haha!

5. I get bored easily and have to keep myself busy – even if it’s not productively busy!

6. I’m a Gemini.

7. I had a Winnie the Pooh bedroom until IĀ moved out of my parents house. šŸ™‚

So there we have it, that’s a few facts about me… I’m sure you’ll learn more about me soon!

I would like to nominate the following people & Their Blogs:

Hello Bexa

Maloreads

The Spicy Bean

Booking Good Reads

Jenny In Neverland

Always Opinionated Girl

Love Hayley Beth

Sweet Allure

The Life of a Glasgow Girl

My Passion Projects

Rebecca’s Reviews

Life With KtKinnes

Fanni Szalczgruber

Travelling Wanderer

Dork Face

These are the Blogs that IĀ have been enjoying and hope you also find something to take from them all too. Be sure to visit them all and Enjoy!

Much Love

Laura xx

My Reading Challenge 2018

I’ve been looking for a challenge or two to do for 2018 since the beginning of December (because five kids, starting up a blog, packing and moving isn’t enough of a challenge for me in January alone) haha!

I first found the goodreads challenge which you basically set yourself a goal of how many books you will read in the year, so I’ve set myself a target of 30 books.

It wasn’t exactly what I was looking for, I wanted something different!

Since 2016 when I started up my Online business, I’ve been working more on myself so my reads have been more on the personal development side and that is basically all I’ve been reading – it’s obviously not a bad thing to do, working on yourself, but you just know when you need something more…

I’ve missed the fantasy and thrillers, the Fairytale and true stories, the chance to be lost in another world – you know the ones – and the enticement of the book world is just too great to ignore for very long.

I found it!

I found exactly what I need to get me back into the world of books :-

The Popsugar Challenge!!

Not only is this going to grow my reading experience again, but I will be experiencing books I would never normally read, such as sports and feminism – if it’s the new age feminism stuff then, yuck!

I’m in love with the idea of the challenge and I’ve made a start with my reading challenge and my first book of choice is: The Colour of Magic written by Terry Pratchett, I love his books and I found 3 of his while packing the house up, all brand new I’d bought a couple of years back that I never got round to, so it was the perfect book to begin with.

The fact it falls under three of the categories helped – although I’ll not be cheating myself out of the challenge by marking one book as three – no point in doing it that way really is there?!

If you want to join me and many others in the Popsugar reading Challenge, here’s the list you’ll be needing for 2018

Have you joined in any challenges for 2018? Or even set your own? Let me know in the comments, I’m always looking for new things to get involved in.

Much Love

Laura xx

15 Signs of Emotional AbuseĀ 

The scars you can’t see are the hardest to heal. 

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Unlike physical violence, the thing with emotional abuse is that you don’t always see it as it is usually until it’s too late, because by the time you notice it for what it is, your usually in too deep.

You’ve already sunk into a depression and your riddled with anxiety. You are usually left feeling lonely because over time you’ve neglected and lost  (or so it seems) your relationships with friends and family through no fault of your own.

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Some of the signs (but not limited to) of Emotional Abuse are:

  • Isolation from friends and family 
  • Calls you “too sensitive” when you respond to abusive comments
  • Humiliates you, either alone or in front of others
  • *Gaslights you to make you doubt your sanity 
  • Lacks respect for you and points out your mistakes
  • Blames you for his problems
  • Tries to control you and your behaviour
  • Belittles you 
  • Has (extra-marital) affairs and becomes emotionally distant
  • Tells you your a bad parent or threatens to take away your children
  • Destroys your property or threatens to kill your pets
  • Not allowing you out alone, constant checking up or following you
  • Traps you in a room and doesn’t let you out
  • Makes all the decisions
  • Makes false allegations or endlessly making accusations

Unlike domestic violence, there aren’t any external signs or damage to be viewed, that would give you and everyone else too much evidence that you were in an abusive relationship.

Emotional abusers enjoy the torment and will torture you from the inside, they get inside your head and heart and like to see you being destroyed by reducing your self-esteem and confidence and doubting yourself in order to make you increasingly reliant on them. It also makes it easier to manipulate you and convince the outside world that you are crazy, unstable or jealous.

**Many survivors of Emotional Abuse in relationships state that the impact of the abuse is worse than any physical violence they experienced, however it was much more difficult to prove, to obtain protection, or even to get others to take them seriously.

*What is Gaslighting?

Gaslighting is a form of Emotional Abuse in which an abuser attempts to make you doubt your own recall or perception.

If you believe yourself to be in an abusive relationship please seek help as soon as possible. There are some helplines listed below if you’d like advice please don’t hesitate to contact them either on their website or free phone numbers:

 

Www.victimsupport.org.uk – 08081689111

Www.womensaid.org.uk – 08082000247

Www.lwa.org.uk – 03003650112

 

Don’t suffer in silence.

Much Love

Laura xx

 

 

**statement from the lwa website.

All views in this post are my own (unless otherwise stated), and this post is not endorsed by the above organisations.

My New Year Goals 2018

As 2017 draws to an end and a New Year comes at us in full force, it’s time to start setting some goals for 2018.

2017 has been a very, very challenging year, infact it’s been totally shite!! So many crappy things gone wrong that I now need to focus on the good things to come from the year ahead.

I’ve always been good at setting out goals but sticking to them, well that is a totally different story!

I’m living in hope that by publishing this post and having my goals plastered on the internet will give me more than enough motivation and accountability to actually get things done… I’m counting on you folks to keep my arse in check haha!

My goals for 2018 are: 

Blogging

  • Get self hosting
  • Monetize my blog
  • Get into the habit of regular posting
  • Grow my audience
  • Grow my presence on social media

Life – Family & Friends

  • More outings with the kids
  • Meet up with and contact friends more regularly 
  • Make new friends
  • Have a family holiday – destination yet to be decided

Myself

  • Create a Miracle Morning routine
  • Exercise/ Yoga
  • Give myself some TLC 
  • Make some free time for me
  • Look after my health better 

There are quite a few things I want to get through this year and plenty more too that will come to light once I manage to get in a routine of the above.

I will be using the Trello app to keep me on track with my blog and creating some space in my bullet journal for tracking alot of the goals I have set myself.
I’m totally ready to rock the new year!

Let me know in the comments what some of your goals are for 2018. I’ll look forward to reading them =)

Much Love 

Laura xx 

Why I don’t do Elf on a Shelf!

My views on “Buddy” the Elf…

A lot of people I know and many thousands more take to the stores or to their Christmas Cupboards to get their Elf on a Shelf ready for December 1st… Except me!

Firstly, what i’d like to know is, do these people make a plan out for the mess this monster is going to create throughout December or do they just wing it?
If I had one I would have to plan out the full month so I didn’t forget to move the stupid elf!

Secondly, why do all these people feel the need to promote Bad Behaviour before the Big day?

Surely that just asking for trouble?

I thought that Christmas was a season of goodwill, teaching your children about a time of giving and being grateful for what they do receive.

To be honest I don’t really know the ins and outs of the religious side to all the drama of Christmas, i’m not from a religious family and I’ve forgotten the majority of what i was taught about it. (Bad me I know, I’ll get to researching Christmas soon).

I do know that as a child, me and my brothers were taught about the joys of giving, we were taught to appreciate and to be greatful for all that we did receive and we always, always looked after everything we got.

To me having an Elf who does alot of naughtiness, is not only teaching the children that it’s good to be bad but also that being disrespectful of other people’s belongings is fun! How and who even comes up with these ideas?

My children can be pains in the arses without all the commotion of an evil elf destroying the place and to be fair I think it would freak my kids our knowing that a little scraggly elf was coming alive at night to be naughty!

Are you an Elf on the shelf-er? Let me know your views on the “Buddy” Elf in the comments.

Much Love

Laura xx

Top 5 favorite Christmas songs

It never feels like Christmas until you hear your first Christmas song on the radio.

When me & the kids were on the school run, me in a mood because again we failed to leave the house on time, lost shoes, bags etc the usual with anyone wanting to leave the house on time, When it happened… the radio was on and my 1st Christmas song of the year started playing, “I wish it could be Christmas everyday”, the mood lifted, the volume turned up and me and the kids were happily singing along… this actually changed my whole day, it was glorious!

pine-cones-2110283_1920My top 5 Christmas songs

  1. The Pogues – Fairytale of New York
  2. Wham – Last Christmas
  3. Step into Christmas – Elton John
  4. All I want for Christmas – Mariah Carey
  5. Merry Xmas Everybody – Slade

These are fab songs to get anyone in the mood for Christmas and great for a sing along… I rushed home to get out my decorations, only to remember I’d handed them to charity after the new year, gutted!

What’s your all time favourite Christmas song? Let us know in the comments.

Until next time…

Much Love

Laura xx

My first blog post – Get to know me

I figured the best way to go about this whole “newbie blogger” would be to introduce myself a little, I found some “get to know me” questions that I’ll answer… so here goes.

rose-3014267_1920What is your middle name?

My middle name is Louise

Who was your first best friend?

My first and forever best friend is and always will be Joanne

How many countries have you visited?

Not as many as I would like to… I have been to 5 different countries in total

Are you in/have you been to college?

Yes, I studied and gained my NVQ level 2&3 in Administration

Tea or Coffee?

Has to be tea..Ā  sorry coffee lovers!

What is your favourite movie?

Ooo so many to choose from, I can’t do it… I’ll get back to this one!

Favourite childhood memory?

This has to be days out with my Jock nanna, I remember me & my brother giving her a boost up the hill … probably not needed but I suppose all nanna’s and some mothers make out they can’t make it up a hill (i do it, poor kids) … unfortunately she passed away when I was 6, so I cherish memories like this more.

Do you have any siblings?Ā 

I have 2 brothers, also 2 half sister’s & a half brother

What is your favourite restaurant?

I love Frankie & Bennies, anything pasta & chicken haha

Tell us one of your bad habits!

This has to be… nail biting, although not very often these days, I do however bite these down if they break or chip instead of cutting and filing!

So there we have it, 10 “get to know me” questions answered. If there is anything else you’d like to know about me, please feel free to comment below and I’ll get back to you.

Much Love

Laura xx