The scars you can’t see are the hardest to heal.
Unlike physical violence, the thing with emotional abuse is that you don’t always see it as it is usually until it’s too late, because by the time you notice it for what it is, your usually in too deep.
You’ve already sunk into a depression and your riddled with anxiety. You are usually left feeling lonely because over time you’ve neglected and lost (or so it seems) your relationships with friends and family through no fault of your own.
Some of the signs (but not limited to) of Emotional Abuse are:
- Isolation from friends and family
- Calls you “too sensitive” when you respond to abusive comments
- Humiliates you, either alone or in front of others
- *Gaslights you to make you doubt your sanity
- Lacks respect for you and points out your mistakes
- Blames you for his problems
- Tries to control you and your behaviour
- Belittles you
- Has (extra-marital) affairs and becomes emotionally distant
- Tells you your a bad parent or threatens to take away your children
- Destroys your property or threatens to kill your pets
- Not allowing you out alone, constant checking up or following you
- Traps you in a room and doesn’t let you out
- Makes all the decisions
- Makes false allegations or endlessly making accusations
Unlike domestic violence, there aren’t any external signs or damage to be viewed, that would give you and everyone else too much evidence that you were in an abusive relationship.
Emotional abusers enjoy the torment and will torture you from the inside, they get inside your head and heart and like to see you being destroyed by reducing your self-esteem and confidence and doubting yourself in order to make you increasingly reliant on them. It also makes it easier to manipulate you and convince the outside world that you are crazy, unstable or jealous.
**Many survivors of Emotional Abuse in relationships state that the impact of the abuse is worse than any physical violence they experienced, however it was much more difficult to prove, to obtain protection, or even to get others to take them seriously.
*What is Gaslighting?
Gaslighting is a form of Emotional Abuse in which an abuser attempts to make you doubt your own recall or perception.
If you believe yourself to be in an abusive relationship please seek help as soon as possible. There are some helplines listed below if you’d like advice please don’t hesitate to contact them either on their website or free phone numbers:
Www.victimsupport.org.uk – 08081689111
Www.womensaid.org.uk – 08082000247
Www.lwa.org.uk – 03003650112
Don’t suffer in silence.
**statement from the lwa website.
All views in this post are my own (unless otherwise stated), and this post is not endorsed by the above organisations.